What resistance means is pointless

The design and message of Andreas Knuf's book caught my eye among the many guides on self-optimization. This book is not about tapping untapped potential and creating the "best version" of yourself, but about accepting life as it is, with all its adversities, and recognizing yourself and others. This attitude is refreshing. We don't have to strive for perfection in order to become happier, but rather learn to accept things. That sounds banal, but when you read the book it becomes clear that it is not easy.

Strokes of fate, annoyances and injustices are just as much a part of life as happy events and developments. However, they trigger unpleasant feelings that we instinctively "fight back" against - we fight them or try to suppress them. If we can say yes to everything that life has in store for us - be it pleasant or uncomfortable - we can find inner peace and contentment. Acceptance does not mean that we have to find a situation good, but that it can be as it is. That makes sense: But how can we become "less resistant" and cultivate acceptance?

To anticipate one thing: acceptance cannot be practiced through certain techniques. It is an inner and intense process that does not come about even after reading the book. What the book does, however, is to invite its readers to rethink their own attitude towards resistance and thus to open up to the gifts of life.

Close to his readers, the author chooses examples from life and biographies with which I could identify well. And these are what make reading it so exciting. The path to an accepting attitude differs from person to person, just as the challenges life poses to you are different. Everyone has to find their own way to this inner attitude. Acceptance does not mean remaining passively in a situation, but can open up new paths. Meditation and mindfulness can help on this journey, but they don't take up too much space in the book.

At this point I would like to emphasize the easily accessible exercises and "pause signs", which invite you to take a break from reading and divide the content into good "nibbles". First and foremost, the book inspired me to see life in a different way. I hope that many more people will discover the book for themselves.

Katrin Kl√ľnter in Psychosocial Review